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Maybe you've bartended at the same place for 10 years, or still live in that corner apartment after so many years. Suddenly, you get an email or phone call from someone you last with 20 years ago who is just saying hello. Maybe they live in your city. Maybe you couldn't stand them. Maybe you had sex once. Maybe you worked together. What's it like to open that email or take that call, once you've skimmed formalities, and consider reconnecting? I've contacted a considerable number of acquaintances over the past 5 years, mostly from high school, but also from college.
Some people are receptive, but others are understandably stand-offish. I guess I have a hard time letting go of relationships. I like to pop in and find out what's up. I take friendship very seriously, and value lasting relationships.
I'm not the stalking type happily married, family, "Old friend hook up." But it's so easy these days to think of an old friend, Google them or Zaba -ping themand want to just know what they're up to.
Is this the fine line of stalking? Am I unfulfilled in my current relationships? Am I seeking the ultimate friend? Am I stuck in the past? How I feel about it depends on the friend: From the other angle, I've contacted a number of old friends; all of them were polite; one didn't return the call and I didn't call again ; and in one case the friendship has gotten stronger currently engaged in a lengthy email exchange with him on any number of topics, and he and his wife stopped in on the way through town so we could have lunch.
This has happened to me several times in the past few years my name is extremely rare, in fact I'm the only one of me to be found on the internet at this point, so I'm
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I can think of only a couple of people I'd really rather not look me up, and only one that might on the outside But really it wouldn't bother me much if anyone looked me up, though again those couple might not be thrilled at a lukewarm reception. As long as there isn't junk like that in the background, I see no reason not to take advantage of the ability to locate people if you want to talk to them.
I can think of several people I haven't been able to look up who I wish would find me. I like it - but it's gotta be over email. Don't show up at my door or make my phone ring. IMO Zaba and the info you can get off of it is a little creepy, I'd rather it didn't exist.
The same goes for personal information on google, but the genie's out of the bottle on both of those and there isn't any stuffing it back in. Luckily, my username has been used by at least one other person over the years, but I've actually given serious thought to changing to something much more common, for added privacy. If any of the people had actually been close friends with had tried to contact me, I probably would have reciprocated, but I can't guarantee it.
Most of the time, I'd rather think of the friendship that was, rather than find out about someone whom I really don't know anymore and probably don't have much in common with now.
Chances are that the conversation would be more awkward than rewarding from my perspective. Then again, I've always been shitty at keeping up with old friends and probably have a bit of guilt about it too: I've often thought about emailing old friends I've lost touch with, and in a few cases I went ahead and did it. No one was explicitly put off to Old friend hook up from me, though a couple never wrote back.
For the Old friend hook up part, they were glad to hear from me, and I just shrugged off the ones who didn't reply. They probably had their reasons, and those reasons probably had little to do with me these were people I'd been on good terms with when we last spoke. I can't think of anyone offhand I would specifically not want to hear from, though if I really gave it some thought there might be one or two.
There are also a few cases where I wish certain people would drop me a line, whether it's to renew old ties after drifting apart or to mend a fence. Generally, I would probably be surprised, often pleasantly so, to hear from an old friend or acquaintance. In a couple of cases it might be initially awkward to resume contact, but in most cases I'd give it a go.
I think it's normal to think about old friends and want to resume contact. "Old friend hook up" don't really see any harm in it unless: For the most part, the worst thing that can happen is that they don't respond or tell you that they don't Old friend hook up to renew the acquaintance, and you're back where you started.
I think the distinction between curiosity and stalking has everything to do with purpose. If you're thinking fondly about an old friend and look them up for the purpose of sending them a letter to say hello, that isn't stalking. If you're trying to force your way back into someone's life, that is stalking. The key is Old friend hook up respect the other person's wishes. Anecdotally, I recently googled my 7th grade teacher, who I had really liked, and found his current Old friend hook up address.
I decided to put all my cards on the table in the first letter, rather than simply pinging him with a "is this you? It paid off really well. I had written him, telling him who I was, what year he had taught
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His response was great, and we have since been writing back and forth about once a month, talking about our memories of 25 years ago and about teaching in general--as I am now a teacher. To anyone interested in making contact with a long-lost friend or colleague, I recommend taking into consideration that if you write just a little blurb, you may leave the person wondering what you're after.
If you want to bridge the gap of time, you should make a pitch for yourself--not necessarily a strong one, but a sincere and appealing one. School reunions serve a purpose. I value my I just got off the phone with my cousin who wants me to attend a BBQ. I said my food is already prepared. I will make up excuses. But at least with email you have time to ponder and approach things Old friend hook up on your own terms.
On the other hand I did google an old friend a few months ago and emailed him. He came by within 30 mins!
We've been getting together irregularly since and it's great. I've only ever had one long lost friend contact me, I was happy to hear her but soon realized why we hadn't kept in touch and our contact tapered off.
A couple months ago I got in touch with someone whose old address I found, pretty much the same thing happened. Curiosity satisfied at least. I've stayed in touch with exactly two people from my high school years I've attended two reunions and found that folks were generally the same as they were in HS I won't be attending any more. I think it can be very nice, and I also think it's normal to want to check in with
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On the other hand, as cali notes, I think it rarely rekindles anything although it can. Most friendships, as special as they seem, are a function of time and place as much as of soul-connection. Really, it depends on how the friendship ended. A friend of mine and I drifted apart in college. She e-mailed me a couple
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I agree with everyone else who says to email instead of call or show up at the
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Old friend hook up it really depends on the person. I don't go out of my way to find someone; if a mutual acquaintance mentions a person that piques my interest, I take it further.
Everyone can use more friends! Now, if it's a friend where we drifted apart or outgrew each other, I may not be so receptive. But in general, I'm always willing to chat and catch up, as long as there are no expectations of becoming best friends again. It's surprising how true this is - the latter part is important, but it is tough to keep up a long-distance friendship, and weaker 'soul connections' can become quite central friendships if you're thrown together for a lot of time.
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