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Is tinder just a dating site

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I think a lot about the sheer math of modern Tinder. These are not official figures, but I would say based on my experience and that of friends they are eminently fair. Fifty match you back, optimistically. Twenty actually send you a message and you message 10 additional people, but only hear back from two of them.

Three turn out to be bots or illiterate. Five say something extremely gross referencing aspects of your anatomy. Four just say "hi" or some variation thereof and are not attractive or interesting enough to get away with it; they too may be bots.

The remaining eight are worth responding to. The other two move to texting. One turns out to be so Is tinder just a dating site that you try to schedule a date and they cancel three separate times. The remaining one you schedule a date with, rolling a three-sided die: You could attribute these terrible odds to any number "Is tinder just a dating site" things about me, and I feel certain there are people who have more success than I do.

People who literally order men to their apartments for dick appointments are bolder and less afraid than I am that anyone could be a kleptomaniac or serial killer, or at least more confident that they could manage that situation.

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But take it for granted I am a nice-ish normal-ish person with the line "tell me how you feel about avocados" in my bio. But even still, Tinder and its peers are so much thumbwork just to get one person to physically show up. While the logarithmic scale of success becomes becomes 10 becomes 1—I asked Tinder to confirm these numbers and they never answered is damning, what I focus Is tinder just a dating site on is those matches.

In matches, individually sorted and approved by two different people, only one actually transforms into a meeting.

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With Tinder and similar apps, I hardly ever actually meet anyone, given the number of people I reach mutual approval with. My theory about this is that Tinder is not actually for meeting anyone.

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Think about the way people used to date: Every night you did it, you mustered your A-game of appearance and interpersonal skills. On Tinder, I am always that perfect projection of my A-game appearance and interpersonal skills. I can receive validation for my best self any time I open the app, without leaving my couch; no need to get dressed up or project interest or aloofness or whatever I think he thinks I think he thinks I think he is interested in. And 90 percent of the people I validate back appear to feel the exact same way.

I tested this theory out on at least two real-life Tinder dates, and to my recollection Is tinder just a dating site least one of them agreed. It has none of the interpersonal mess of, say OkCupid personality questions "would you find a nuclear apocalypse exciting or terrifying? If we swipe right on Is tinder just a dating site other, I feel validated, you feel validated, I feel validated that you feel validated, and we can all continue on in our single lives feeling satisfied that we are good without actually having to do much at all.

That, Tinder is great for; actual dating, not so much. Casey Johnston Feb—14— Get The Outline in your inbox. Anyone who's dating or in a relationship should visit this website. Enter a name to Once a guy proposed to me after meeting on Tinder, but it didn't go through.

But for some dating apps and sites, the free version may actually be all you . Tinder is great for finding a quick hookup with someone nearby. One of the hardest parts of dating has always been getting up the nerve to hit on someone you see often, but don't know—like the guy on Is tinder just a dating site.

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