There are many discreet ways of doing this.
What company does he or she keep? How do they migrate the putrid waters of social media? What they will and will not put up with, where the lines are.
Of course it ended, you think to yourself, he had a poster of Delta Goodrem in his bedroom! My own chief criterion has always been about whether or not he has any female friends.
When I met my partner, this was one of the many things I liked about him. He had male friends, yes, but lots of female friends, too, many of whom he is still close to. Some people asked me tentatively if I was OK with it.
And this stance is far from confined to the evangelical vice president. Most stunningly, a majority of women and nearly half of men said it was unacceptable to have dinner or drinks alone with someone of the opposite sex other than their spouse. This kind of thinking is antithetical to the expansive quality of great friendships, which may not be romantic, but are no less important for it.
Any successful and enduring male-female friendship is a tiny rebellion of sorts against anachronistic notions of uncontrollable male desire and the female sirens that lure and distract them.
By subjecting the hazing victim to degrading acts and enforcing vileness towards women, the university bullies are demanding the forfeit of softness, of individuality and decency. A threshold is crossed, and the boy becomes a man, which in this case is to say a feelingless drone.
Is it any surprise then that some men see women as either mothers or sex partners? That in their minds womanhood is made up of two distinct and mutually exclusive categories of Madonna and whore?
We need men and women to seek out and maintain these friendships more than ever, not draw ridiculous lines in the sand that they promise never, ever to cross. Order by newest oldest recommendations. Show 25 25 50 All.