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So, story is that we met at work and rather immediately became attached at the hip, and a year later we started dating. This sounds all fine and dandy, however, the twist is that it's been "in secret" until he can move out and get away from his family because he knows his family is NOT going to handle it well at all and he will become disfellowshipped.
What I want to know, though, is what exactly is going to happen? What will they tell him?
What is it like to be disfellowshipped? And assuming that our relationship is going to last and he's going to remain in his faith, what is it going to be like in an interfaith relationship? How will his congregation treat us? We've talked extensively about our differences in beliefs and we both feel the same way: Also, I'm not sure if this is noteworthy or not, but he does attend all of his meetings, is a pioneer, and does go door to door, but he's also very relaxed with his religion.
Anyone "Cedars ex jw dating" has met and hung Cedars ex jw dating with him always say the same thing, that they're surprised he's a Jehovah's Witness because he's just so liberal in his ways and views.
This comes up here every few weeks, and the advice is always the same:
Cedars ex jw dating, ever date a JW, or even a former JW, unless they can say with certainty that they will never go back. Disfellowshipping means that his friends and family are not allowed to even speak to him.
They essentially treat him as though he were dead. That's a nice, romantic sentiment for teenagers, but it simply doesn't hold up in the real world. What each of you believes does matter.
Unless he has mentally broken completely free, he will go back, and it is a relentless world of pain. You're right, it DOES matter what we "Cedars ex jw dating" believe in. I guess what I meant to say is that I accept that he's a Jehovah's Witness and he accepts that I'm not religious at all. That's exactly why I made this post, though: What's in for us? Suppose he DOES go back? He would be obligated to try to convert you. His beliefs dictate that he is the head of the house and you are to be submissive to him.
You won't have holidays or birthdays. He will preach to your friends and neighbors and family. And worst of all, you will be stuck with someone who is stuck in a cult and can't see it.
JWs are not an ordinary religion. They are a high-control doomsday cult with a nice smile on it. There's just no clearer way to say this: Don't have anything to do with this cult or anybody in it.
Listen to this OP! Read it, read it again and read it outloud. This is what will happen. We have either experienced this or seen Cedars ex jw dating ourselves go thru this It sounds like he's in deep.
Liberal JWs are just that, liberal, but they are still JWs. They still won't celebrate holidays, birthdays, accept blood transfusions even if it means dying, and they are so heavily indoctrinated that changing their minds is next to impossible.
Even if you have Solid indisputable facts. Let me put it to you like this, if he found out that you were on this subreddit asking ex-JWs for advice, he would flip out. They are indoctrinated into thinking that ex members are literally being manipulated by Satan. That's a sign of a cult right there. The thing is that if you guys ever get serious and end up having children, you are going to be in for a HUGE wake up call.
Your child will be indoctrinated by him and his family wether you like it or not. This will then put great pressure on your relationship since your children will be one of them and you will remain an outsider, an ignorant worldly person until you submit to his religion. refer to their religion as "the truth" in casual conversation.
For example you'll often hear things like, "I saw your cousin the other day at the store, is he in the truth? First thing if he is serious about pursuing a relationship with you then he needs to answer this for you and give you a heads up as to what you are in for.
I knew of a few people who had been married for a long time with one person in and out, but it is very rare because there are many demands placed on someone that is committed to "the truth". The very first thing that happens when he tells his parents that he is dating you is that they will tell the Elders that he is dating a "worldly" girl. They wil they grill him on every little detail of your relationship and if you guys have been intimate in any way they will know about it and keep a record of it.
He will be stripped of his title of Pioneer and unless he breaks off the relationship with you then he could be Disfellowshipped. All of his family and Cedars ex jw dating will
Cedars ex jw dating him and not speak to him.
This can cause a lot of resentment in the relationship and hopefully he can place it upon the cult and not on you. At that point if he wanted to get back in he would have to marry "Cedars ex jw dating" first because you can't be a witness and have an intimate relationship with someone of the opposite sex. Assuming hasn't done with you that would get him in trouble with the Elders, then he will still lose his title of Pioneer and the respect of people in the church for dating
Cedars ex jw dating of the religion.
They will try and convert you hard, and you will forever have to deal with people trying to convert you so long as he is involved with them.
And just the day to day things. If he remains a dedicated JW then he will spend a lot of his time with meeting, studying and going door to door.
These are just some of the things I can remember from my time in, but basically it starts with whether or not he will be guilted to break it off when he comes clean, and doesn't let up. It's not going to be like it will end with him telling his parents and then you guys can just date openly. He will get serious hate from his friends and family and there
Cedars ex jw dating be some of that directed to you. Many relationships end once he person tells their family about it, but not all.
You sound like a sweet girl that just fell for a nice guy from work, so hopefully he doesn't break your heart. I think you should just spend time with the search bar, your questions have all been answered here many times over. But the quick of it is, being disfellowshipped is absolute hell on earth, you'll be dating Cedars ex jw dating with no support and no family who will likely transform into a different person over time, as extreme emotional pain has that effect.
He may seem liberal but that's a facade until he leaves, one way or another. JWs are Cedars ex jw dating of shit. We all know because we too used to be full of shit. There is a video out there where elders are counseling a young man who had a worldly girl friend and slept with her. I think he even got her pregnant but could be wrong on that.
It is extremely telling. It is an actual video that the elders use in their elder training schools on how to deal with sinners. The best analogy I can come up with at the moment, is an extramarital affair, and you're the other woman. Until he actually breaks things off, and cuts off any contact, his words aren't worth the breath he uses to expel them. He might have good intentions, he might Cedars ex jw dating be serious, but you know when, or if he'll leave, if push comes to shove.
Plus, I doubt you'd enjoy being his dirty little secret. Finally, there will be a lot of bitterness, as leaving can be traumatic.
If you do decide to stick with him, make sure he doesn't use you as an excuse for leaving, or blame you for what happened. If he's Cedars ex jw dating pioneer, you can bet he will try his best to convert you sooner or later. If he doesn't someone will. Until you do, you and he will be considered spiritually weak and with some, undesirable association.
I believe he will be taken off the pioneer list and won't be able to have any responsibilities at the hall. You will not be allowed to get married in the kingdom hall.
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