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Dating a 40 year old man who has never been married


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Not sure this is true among all, but the one's I've met Now with men, there might be diff reason, not sure if men ever come close to being married though. I had recently talked with a 45 year old woman, who is single, never married, no children, and does not want children. But for some reason they never actually sealed the deal. Her reason was the fact she was more into herself, was never good at maintaing relationships not sure what that means. She thinks this is also attributed to why she dates long distance Apparently she is NOW aware that she would have to bend a little if she meets the right guy, and she probably will go along with something more commited.

But, so if someone asks that there must be some issue with a person that is that old, and never married Anyone can compare notes? Delete Report Edit Lock Reported.

Respond Your response must be between 3 and characters. I will speak from personal experience. I didn't marry until I was I had never been married or engaged "Dating a 40 year old man who has never been married" that.

Some people stereotyped me as being tragically flawed, picky, or inflexible. None of that was true, though I did work entirely too much. Yet, that didn't stop me from meeting and marrying my husband. The truth is, I knew who would be best for me and as much as I wanted to marry, I wasn't willing to risk a bad marriage by compromising on essentials. I didn't need a guy who made lots of money, or who looked a certain way.

I didn't care what he drove, or whether he gave me goosebumps. Instead, I wanted a man who was solid and real. I wanted someone who loved God, who loved people, who loved life, even when things were tough. I wanted a man who was open, who I could talk with, who I respected, who was honest, and who respected me. I needed to know that we had similar goals and that I could support him without reserve. I wanted someone I loved and who loved me.

I met him at He was all those things and more. When he came into my life, we were both serious, open, and vulnerable. We spent most of our courtship time developing the friendship; our love grew steadily. That being said, there are many reasons that people are single past Sometimes people have issues with connecting with others, but not always. Even so, people are in flux; they can learn and grow if they are willing. The 45 year old you mentioned, who now wants to bend, is showing that she is teachable, which is an excellent character trait.

It is a good practice to give each other grace to grow and learn. Delete Report Edit Reported Reply. GeauxGirl Send a private message. For The most part, you just told my story. I truly hope and pray, that my story ends up as yours has. I've been engaged twice. I ended the first one myself. The second was ended because I was in a head on car accident and he left me for another woman because he could not endure my physical rehabilitation.

Although I'm working on my doctorate, I find that most men seem to view me as thoughI must be damaged goods since I'm in my early 40s and I've never married, or at least never Dating a 40 year old man who has never been married an illegitimate child. Seems awfully backwards, doesn't it?

I call it having standards. I'm complimented on my appearance, sense of humor, etc. Although I would like to be married, my happiness doesn't depend on it. Violetta Send a private message. I am in my early 30s and single and admittedly worried about this already. The "what is wrong with her" comments are already starting.

But I am sooo much like you! Everything you describe is how I feel and what I want. I find this very encouraging. Sometimes I hypocritically wonder what is wrong with them or worry about their ability to ever commit. Obviously individuals don't all follow the same timeline and it's better to wait for genuine love and connection than to marry out of desperation.

Intuition Send a private message. It is indeed a splendid post. I am in my late thirties n still single. I Dating a 40 year old man who has never been married my solitude and m preparing for a PhD program. It is well-known to a person like me as to what perspectives are held regarding a single lady in societies. Single Dating a 40 year old man who has never been married are accused of possessing some fault moral, physical as reasons behind their singlehood.

I love my Dating a 40 year old man who has never been married, enjoy my own being, I have plenty of time to look into my own Self and connect with it. Being human beings, we all wanna share our moments with some one worthy of being shared the moments with, but, how many out there are lucky in a real sense who truly get to find compatibility and companionship? Rest is compromises, divorces, suffocation. Solitude is much better than such failures.

I will only marry if I ever do soif he is better than my solitude, who I can have that heart to heart connection with. Motionman Send a private message.

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Geauxgirl that's awful that the one guy left after such a tragic accident. We live in a self-absorbed world. I really don't even believe that true love exists. I for one, have just given up. I will always be talked about because I've never wed and I have no children at 51 like I'm some freak!

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In reality I have financial stability, a Master's degree, great physical condition, a sense of humor, I've even done some male modeling. But I know of a litany of guys who act like they're God's gift to women when they're actually uneducated bums looking Dating a 40 year old man who has never been married their next conquest.

And I also have Dating a 40 year old man who has never been married involved with women who because of their modeling good looks, think that I should be starry eyed just to be in their presence.

Those I love to ignore so to give them a chance to get over themselves. The point I'm making here is the reason I gave up trying is because nobody in all those years ever even acknowledged me. Nobody knows what the guidelines are for dating anymore. Most people are ignorant enough to pull out their cell phones on a date. But it's not my imagination, the more obnoxious the guy, the more the woman loves him. At this rate I'll be in solitude for the rest of my life. Stacey Send a private message.

I know this post is from a year ago, but I recently started doing some research on this topic as I am 43 and single with no children. I could not have put it better than your post here. I agree with every part of what you said. So, if I succeed I'll know it's my own success and not by mirroring someone else, and the same goes for my failures.

I live a comfortable life, nothing fancy, but not in poverty either. I am happy with who I am, and am aware of the steps I need to take to become even a better part of me. I'm OK being alone, no I'm not an introvert, I'm just comfortable in my own skin. One thing young married couples tend to neglect, and that is learning to love yourself before anything else, I'm not talking about being vain kind of love, but appreciating yourself for who you are comes with age. I truly believe you can't really know yourself until you actually spend alone time by yourself.

I believe in a saying "you are who you are when you think no ones looking". I can say I am the same person by myself as I am with others around me.

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You'd be surprised of so many acting like they're a certain person around a crowd, but then you see them a completely different person when they are "alone". I discovered that in a past relationship.

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Anyway, I can go on and on, but I liked what you said here, and congratulations on finding your perfect match for you. I do believe in love and I do believe he's out there for me somewhere, but until then I'm going to keep one foot in front of the other, love God and keep Him close to me, be a good person to all, enjoy my family, love my dogs and give them a good happy life, do the best I can for the company I love working for, 've respectful to others and myself, and be glad for what I have.

And this isdon't they know 40 is the new 20's. So he's never been married and has no kids. That's okay, right? Dating a 40 year old man who has never been married a 40 year old bachelor send you running in the opposite direction? But should we lump all something year old men, with no wives or children to speak of, Diddy & Cassie Split After More Than 10 Years of Dating a man in his late 30s to 50s who never married before? others for years and decades does present a financial burden to a man who is.

But if you are the aforementioned woman and you find you are dating a fella over 40 who has never been married, or at least in a co-habiting.

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